So when I last did you are hoping that a relatively good job at explaining the core identity coaching
model T in this video.
What I want to give you is your own experience snow.
I've never done this before because I am standing in front of a camera and as you're watching me you're
watching me in a computer screen and this video was recorded quite some time ago which means that wind
as you're watching me right now I'm actually going to be somewhere else doing something else somewhere
else.
Okay.
So anyway what I want to do is help you get clearer on the core of who you are.
Because I've asked you some questions.
Who are you.
Who are you willing to become.
And it's in this video.
And the next that I want to be able to help you to answer these questions so that in turn you can go
to help other people ask the same or similar questions.
All right.
So what we're going to have to do in this video is how of an imaginary dialogue.
You know the difference between monologue and dialogue.
Yeah.
Monologue is just a one way conversation where I would just be talking at you throwing some information
you're away reading from a textbook perhaps elsewhere a dialogue is more of a two way thing.
Where inside of my mind's eye as I'm communicating right now I am envisioning that you are sitting there
watching observing me so I understand what I see and how I see what I see.
It's going to determine whether you stay engaged or interested or whether you don't.
Which is why I'm involving you in the process.
And this is the purpose of this video or to involve you in the core identity coaching process.
In the last I knew much of the examples I gave were based upon myself but no were putting the focus
on you because I am going to do my best.
To help you to define yourself no it may be the case that you've already done a relatively good job
of this.
Show us video in the in the exercise that we attached just in case you didn't see our Just in case you
want to check.
We're going to explore this and unpack this here.
Right.
Because if I was a gambling man I would place my money on betting that who you are right at the core.
There's quite a lot of comparison.
Right.
Do you you love own.
No I'm saying the opower effect.
There is no winners.
I'm not saying that you're perfectly lobbying all of the time but who you are as well as people we are
talking about people you're a caring loving and caring.
Right.
Yeah I appreciate it.
Perhaps you know something or a sign of you that everyone gets to see all the time but who are those
things nonetheless this is who you are loving and caring right.
If I was a gambling man if if that's not true then by all means send your hate mail and see Kane.
That's not true.
But I have a funny feeling that it most likely is the right someone I know with a star rating some words
on the board here are fundamentally fine.
You.
Loving caring.
This is this is you by the way.
See you're in a hobo.
So if I was to suggest that I reckon you're pretty creative.
Not in a conventional way.
But in a way you're creative.
You may not always express this in all instances all the time but you are creative in the West.
I would yes.
Shall we write creative on the board.
OK it was creative.
So you are creative.
No.
Just to be clear here with us we've now got three words on the board here.
You're caring you're loving your creator.
There's a difference between being creative and being perfect.
Right.
You're not perfect neither am I.
Those that you go in to coach they're not perfect either so we can take that as a given.
This course isn't perfect but you're creative nonetheless.
You're not perfect but you're loving.
You're not perfect but you caring.
I reckon sometimes you might even get a little bit passionate about some things all right.
Sure great passion on the board.
There's passion who you are.
OK.
Let's go for it.
So who you are is passionate.
You know when it comes to being passionate in life were all passionate about different things.
There's a pretty good chance that the things you're passionate about are going to be very very different
from the things I'm passionate about.
And this is all key.
This is what makes us all completely unique.
Unconditional acceptance is a good thing.
Isn't a horrid boats.
If I were to say to you.
You're.
You're honest.
Not all the time.
Sometimes it may not be the case that you go over with tell lies so it's not your intention to tell
a lie something you may just not be quite as honest as what you would like to be.
Do you know what I mean.
Was true in some way.
So you're not perfectly honest.
But you are honest.
A mistake on the board to look at.
Lester saw who you are is honest.
Not perfectly.
There's some room for improvement but honest nonetheless.
And there have been times in the past when you have gone on to do things that you have said that you
would do.
There have been times in the past when you have followed through on your word.
So is also fair to say who you are as sincere not terrifically sincere but sincere nonetheless.
Can we you sincere as one word to help us to define who it is you are at the core to those who are sincere.
I reckon that there have been people you know and that you have known in the past.
You have just been completely loyal to.
In some way.
And you know who they are.
You're not loyal people that you don't trust you're not loyal to people who you don't respect or trust.
But you are loyal to those that you know and those that know you and those that you care about.
As I see not perfectly loyal to all people all the time but you are a loyal nonetheless.
So come right loyal in here.
The words you take in this course right.
No.
You will have signed up for some reason to potentially learn some new stuff some new information get
some new insights or you may be interested in becoming a life coach you may just be interested in taking
this course to better improve yourself.
But either way you're committed to growing growing up.
You want to better yourself.
You're committed to growing.
That's who you are isn't it.
No.
Sometimes we can all have little slaps but.
Because you're watching this course has a pretty good chance that you've you've taken responsibility
for yourself in quite a large number of areas of your life that maybe some areas still require a little
bit of work.
Much like all of us.
But you're fundamentally quite a responsible person.
Um kirshon Historically I've always signed and connected responsibility and take responsibility for
themselves to maturity the maturity in life.
All of ever stems from a person's willingness to assume full responsibility for every single area of
the life for the things that they do for their actions.
For the behaviours for the emotional inconsistencies.
And while it's not perfect.
You're you're mature you're maturing.
You're perfectly maturing not fully mature but you're you're well on the way.
Get.
They're all right.
Fair to say.
Cook let's put this in here as well mature.
No.
We could go on.
But I'm hoping that this has sparked something in you in you in you.
Let's just look at this circle here.
This is you.
You are not perfect in the same way that I am not perfect in the same way that I do as you know and
those who you want to coach at some point in the future also are perfect.
But I'm guessing that this is the journey that were all on in life.
We're all in this journey of self discovery.
Were all asking these very same questions.
And if we are not able or willing to go there first and how are we ever going to be able to lead someone
else.
Example in getting there second what I would like to do.
All right just just humour me here.
I'm going to ask you whatever you do in whenever you're out Raino.
Close your eyes pay attention focus in on my voice.
And just go with me here.
I'm going to ask you to picture someone inside if you're my so a mind's eye your eyes mind your mind's
eye your mind's eye inside of your mind's eye picture someone not necessarily someone that you know
the minute they've got their backs.
This person here as they begin slowly turning around.
You're able to see that this person is creative they're honest.
They're reliable.
This person is sincere.
This person's mature humble faithful loving caring giving.
Less harrison's generous this person's creative passionate compassionate.
Tell me this is that person who is looking at you right now the kind of person you would like to be
in a relationship with.
And the answer is yes.
Then just become that person in the same way that you want to be in a relationship with someone like
that.
Everyone else out there in the world is desperate to meet someone like you.
This is pretty much the essence of what it means to coach people.
By the way.
Reach on stage of maturity in life where you're willing just to simply be yourself.
To be honest to be reliable to be creative.
Not about sticking to frameworks and models and exercises and techniques stuff so rigid and in life
no one wants to live in a rigid saw a way.
If you think about the one governing factor that drives all of us in life is freedom.
And what is freedom.
Freedom expresses itself through our ability to freely choose to just be ourselves.
Freedom is about us not feeling enslaved.
In Dead end jobs that we hate working for minimum wage or really low salaries.
Freedom is about not giving a shit about what anyone else says or thinks about us.
Freedom is about us becoming fully secure in who we are as individuals so that we out and can go on
to develop unshakable lives where the winds might blow and people can throw stones at us and call us
names when foil sticks and stones may break our bones.
Names titles labels will no longer infiltrate us because were grounded in the truth of who it is that
we are.
But it is important to understand though and I'll say this again and I do appreciate that I am being
repetitive here.
Who I Am is not repetitive about how I am being is very repetitive.
To emphasize this point that none of us are perfect but this is the journey of self discovery.
None of us are there yet.
And whilst this is who we are today tomorrow we can just work towards being better.
This is the good enough principle.
Most people in life will commit years decades to beating themselves up full because they are not good
enough not attractive enough they're not smart enough they're not skilled enough they're not this enough.
They're not that enough.
Well if you think about it you could only ever be not enough if you were comparing yourself to other
people.
Here's a thing is pointless you or anyone else comparing yourself or themselves to anyone else because
you will never be them they'll never be them.
This is one of the paraphilic things about being human.
We're all completely unique and we all get to be whoever it is we choose to be.
You know any point in your future you could choose to not be creative and stop being creative.
You could choose to never be passionate about anything ever again.
You could choose to be completely dishonest.
You could choose to be completely honest and clear.
You could choose to stop growing stop improving yourself stop learning stop developing yourself and
just stagnate.
This is a choice that we all have in life.
You could choose to never love or care about anyone ever again.
You could choose to be loyal to no one and just conduct yourself like a complete child and the only
person I would ever comment the cost off at the cost to is yourself.
From one perspective from the second perspective if you were to choose to live a life there was one
then second and congruent with who it is you fundamentally are.
Well there's always going to come at the cost of other people too.
If you think about how many people in the world will benefit from coming to know someone like you and
the answer is countless And this is why you are taking this course.
So I hope this has been relatively encouraging uplifting insightful for you in the next video.
I'm going to share with you the good of principle.
We're going to look at what we've just discussed here.
From a slightly different perspective the little you're going to absolutely love.